New Year, Real You.
Happy New Year dear friends 💫🎊!
Hope you had wonder-full holidays and were able to recharge, relax and play. These days there is a lot of talk about the New Year’s resolution. I feel under pressure just hearing about them. I actually no longer have them. I still set intentions, but differently. To me New Year’s resolutions were setting myself up for a failure. That much pressure and exhaustion at the end of the year (read my blog on this here) would simply block me from making them reality for longer than about a month. Then I’d feel guilt and shame, and inner critic was like: I told you so.
The whole “out with the old, in with the new (me)” idea needing to be executed on exactly January 1st creates too much pressure. It is also not in harmony with the cycles of Nature. Therefore about 80% of the New Year’s Resolutions fail by February. 🙈
Why New year’s resolutions don’t work:
1. New Year's day is a random date in a Gregorian Calender. From the yogic point of view, (this is also what the elders and shamans say) the best time to set intentions and begin something new is at the New Moon (or even better, a day later – which is today:). We release and let go of something is on at the Full Moon. The best time for a cleanse or fasting is in the spring time or early autumn. The winter time, on the other hand, is the time of hibernation, going within, self-reflection, and adding on a few pounds to protect you from the cold. If you want to do your New year's resolution, by all means do, but better to start with the first New Moon after December 31st.
2. You have the "What" but not the "why": Another reason why the resolutions don’t work is that we have the “What” we want, but not the “Why” we want it. Why do you want to lose weight, not drink alcohol or get a particular job: do you want to live longer, be a good example to your kids, boost your energy, feel confident, have better sex, contribute to happiness and freedom of all beings? All valid reasons. The more specific you can make your goal, the more vivid it will be in your imagination, the more encouraged you’ll be to stick to it and the more likely it is you will succeed.
3. The "old me vs. the "new me", (embrace her instead!): Why does the "old me" need to hit the road and make space for the "new me"? Who is this new me without the old me? And why would anyone want to start from scratch? I need the old me! If it wasn’t for all the challenges she faced, learned and grew from I wouldn’t be here now. In fact, the new me cannot exist without her. This time around I feel love and gratitude for the imperfect me who brought me this far, understanding that sometimes that which we call failure paves our way to success. As it reveals to us the truth of who we really are, why we are here, and what the purpose of our life is:
to love more deeply, to give more generously, to forgive more readily.