Make Your Resolutions Work
Welcome to the new decade friends💫🎊!
Ok. I get it, a new year, a new decade - resolution time. A clean slate is attractive and cool but please DON'T ❌ Start goals & projects because you think “you should.” ❌ Keep beating yourself up for past mistakes.
The whole “out with the old, in with the new me” idea needing to be executed on January 1st creates too much pressure. At least it does for me. Also, it is also not in harmony with the cycles of Nature (see below). Therefore about 80% of the New Year’s Resolutions fail by February. 🙈
Instead of New Year's resolution I choose a word for the year. I let the quality of that word inspire my thoughts, my words, my actions. This year it is ABUNDANCE. Perhaps that works better for your too? A few words on New Year's resolutions traps.
1. New Year's day is a random date in a Gregorian Calender. From the yogic point of view, (this is also what the elders and shamans say) the best time to set intentions and begin something new is at the New Moon (or even better, a day or two later ). We release and let go of something is on at the Full Moon. The best time for a cleanse or fasting is in the spring time or early autumn. The winter time, on the other hand, is the time of hibernation, going within, self-reflection, and adding on a few pounds to protect you from the cold. If you want to do your New year's resolution, by all means do, but better to start with the first New Moon after December 31st.
2. You have the "What" but not the "Why": One of the main reasons why the resolutions don’t work is that we have the “What” we want, but not the “Why” we want it. Why do you want to lose weight, not drink alcohol or get a particular job: do you want to live longer, be a good example to your kids, boost your energy, feel confident, have better sex, contribute to happiness and freedom of all beings? All valid reasons. The more specific you can make your goal, the more vivid it will be in your imagination, the more encouraged you’ll be to stick to it and the more likely it is you will succeed.
3. The "old me vs. the "new me" narrative: Why does the "old me" need to hit the road and make space for the "new me"? Who is this new me without the old me? And why would anyone want to start from scratch? I need the old me! If it wasn’t for all the challenges she faced, learned and grew from I wouldn’t be here now. In fact, the new me cannot exist without her.
See if you can this time around feel love and gratitude for the imperfect you who brought you this far, understanding that sometimes that which we call failure paves our way to success. This reveals to us the truth of who we really are, why we are here, and what the purpose of our life is:
to love more deeply, to give more generously, to forgive more readily 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️